The Big Question

I'm bursting at the seams with posts to write. I want to tell the whole world all about our life with autism. But it's so hard to know how to break that down. So, I'm starting with the basics.

What is autism?

Leaving the medical explanations, speculations, and gobs of research behind, here's what autism is for our family, in the 3.5ish months since diagnosis day.

Autism is energy. Bug is under sensitive to proprioceptive and vestibular input (the two senses you didn't know you have), meaning we have lots of spinning, jumping, running, crashing, etc. in our house. He once took grandpa for an hour+ walk around beyond the neighborhood, then came home and jumped on his trampoline for at least 15 minutes.

Autism is a roller coaster. Some days Bug seems like any other toddler. Others, the difficulties that autism brings take over the day completely. All toddlers have good and bad days, but autism amplifies those highs and lows a few times.

Autism is tears - from everyone. Sometimes the hard days make Bug cry a lot. Sometimes Mom and Dad cry from pride at Bug trying or mastering something new. Sometimes Bear cries because he has to hang out in the safety of his crib alone for a bit while we pass through a meltdown. Sometimes we just cry for no reason!

Autism is nonstop learning. Every day brings us new lessons in what Bug feels and needs. Bug's therapies include Mom and Dad learning different strategies and activities to help him learn and grow. Beyond Bug, the autism world is a big one that I feel I've only barely caught a glimpse of.

Autism is a battle. In Utah, autism treatment isn't covered by insurance. Period. There are a few lucky privately funded insurance plans that cover treatments (that's something!), but most of us are on our own. If a child has another condition or diagnosis that is covered, awesome - there's a way to get some help. But Bug doesn't have another diagnosis. Then there's the whole battle against ignorance. We're fortunate to not have faced this much so far. But it's still so sad how many people think autism is made-up, or a plea for attention, or a conspiracy by doctors and drug companies fueled by greed (yes, people actually think this).

Autism is joy. Even with all his difficulties, Bug is the happiest, sweetest toddler we know. His smile and laugh are infectious. He finds joy in the simplest of things. We find joy with every improvement he makes, whether it's a baby step or a leap forward. We can see the joy the boys have when they are together, even though they don't understand each other very well yet. We see Bug bring joy to his family, friends, and even random people he meets in passing.

Autism somehow just makes the sweet things in life even sweeter. Autism makes Bug sweeter. That's why he's our bucket of sugar.